Why do we compete in BJJ? This is a question that will yield many different answers, from the most philosophical to the most practical. However, the bottom line is, every time we go out to a tournament, what we’re aiming for is to win. We want to win every match in the most dominant fashion possible. All the other stuff, learning, experience, fun, etc comes after. Winning is the point of competition and it is ok to admit it. However, we won’t always win, which is another universal truth. However, win or lose, one thing is for certain: afterward, someone will ask the most polarizing BJJ question “How Did It Go?”
Winning is awesome! That crazy feeling of having your arm raised after a match at a tournament is priceless. Especially if you went about it the hard way, and submitted every one of your opponents. BUT what happens when you inevitably lose? Do you know how to cope with the fact that you’ve lost? If there’s a huge lesson in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, for those that compete, it is learning how to deal with the fact that you lost, and that you’ll inevitably lose again in the future. For those that can’t really cope with this fact, the BJJ question “How did it go” strikes a very painful nerve.
The Most Polarizing BJJ Question
It is tournament day. It is what you’ve worked towards for months now. So many sessions on the mats, endless rolls, lifting weight, running, stretching, all the pain of the weight cut led to this moment in time. To be honest, all that preparation just piles more pressure on how you perform, which is already all you can think about thanks to competition anxiety and nerves. And all of that comes to one common denominator – the uncertainty of whether you’ll win or lose.
Chael Sonnen once said on the Ultimate Fighter that in competitions you do the same thing you do in training every day. It is the circumstances and the environment that change, and not your objectives. Then why do we fear the outcome of a match so much? In fact, nerves usually afferent our performance much more than anything else, including how good our opponent is. You don’t feel the same way when you go for a roll in the gym, so why does a tournament make us feel like this? Is it the potential medals that we win? Is it the “glory” that comes with winning or the “shame” that accompanies losing?
It’s nothing of the above. All of them factor in, but what really puts pressure on us whether we admit it or not, is facing everyone afterward, and answering the BJJ question we all love to hate: “How did it go?” It can be the question we most anticipate or the one we like to get out of the way as fast as possible, having already prepared a list of reasons why things didn’t go our way. The thing is, acting in fear of this question not only hinders performance but to undermines the enjoyment of training a competitive combat sport in the first place.
“How Did It Go?”
Just as it is absolutely certain that you’ll have at least one match in a BJJ tournament (bar begin an only competitor in a division), you can bet your life that at least one person will ask you “How did it go?” when you get back from the tournament. And, as you have probably already experienced, the answer to this BJJ question differs a lot, depending on what happened in your tournament.
One end of the spectrum is the happy proclamation of “I destroyed them all”, when you managed to win your division, or perhaps even the absolute as well. On the other end of the spectrum is the immense list of excuses that you turn to when you lose your first match, always ending in the conclusion that “in BJJ, you either win or you learn.” In the middle, there are unlimited combinations of both, which we usually use when we win a few matches, but miss out on the gold, or any medal for that matter. That’s when we start blaming referees, weight cuts, luck, corners, and everyone else…but for us.
How come we don’t give credit to all of the above (referees, weight cuts, etc.) when we win? That’s because we’re not being honest to ourselves, to begin with. You go out and you win – awesome. You go out and lose immediately – also awesome. And for God’s sake, please stop saying that in BJJ we either win or we learn. As long as people claim that, we’ll always fear the BJJ question of “How did you do?”. Instead, accept that you’ll lose, and be real about why and how you lost. Suddenly that “dreaded” question becomes unimportant and hence, won’t trouble you from the back of your mind the next time you go out to compete. Plus, you’ll be able to satisfy everyone’s curiosity without the urge to shout “why the f&#k do you care?” back at them.
The Questions We Need To Ask Ourselves First
If you want to minimize, or completely eliminate the influence the BJJ question “How did it go?” has on you, then you need to start asking questions of your own. To do so, you have to figure out what actually matters in BJJ, and find a way to focus on that, rather than on the nerve-racking stuff you can never control, like whether you win or not. Of course, you’ll try to, that is the point of stepping on the mats in the first place. However, you don’t have to only ask yourself whether you’ll win or not.
Instead, focus on why you’ve come to compete in the first place. If competing isn’t fun, then maybe you shouldn’t be doing it. After all, people usually love rolling so much because it is fun. Another thing to ask yourself is “am I taking things too seriously?” Usually, the answer to this one is yes, and you should re-adjust your expectation accordingly. Thinking about other stuff like the fact that you’ve made the trip there, that you’re about to give your favorite move a try live, or that you’re going to eat that huge meal afterward are also great ways of not having your brain worry about how you’ll explain your performance to people back home.
The bottom line is, you shouldn’t explain anything to anyone, just say it as it is. When you start feeling the same in answering the polarizing BJJ question “How did it go?” regardless of whether you won or lost, that’s when you’ll be able to step on the mats focusing on what matters the most – performing effectively, with a clear focus in mind to what’s happening at the moment, not what will happen miles away in a few days time.
Closing Thoughts
There’s no need to fear anything in a tournament, except perhaps an injury. Everything else, like winning, losing, not performing to your expectations, or someone else’s expectations are completely and utterly unimportant. Especially when you get rid of the unnecessary pressure piled on by that pesky BJJ question you know is waiting for you back home: “How did you do?”
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It is this notion of dealing with people who might be innocent, and like to claim the same, that merits the use of control, rather than force. I won’t claim to understand police work, but I do know a thing or two about controlling people in a physical sense. If only there was some martial art or sport out there that could allow someone to control another person for extended periods of time and in plenty of different situations without actually causing them any harm. Oh, wait, there is – Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. So why isn’t BJJ Police training a mandatory thing across police forces in the USA, and the entire world, for that manner?
Currently, there’s a positive current that sees many gyms, or individuals offer BJJ police training to law enforcement officials. Royce Gracie just recently became a member of the police force, with the goal of sharing his grappling expertise with officers. A Midlands academy from Texas also offers free classes for police offices, as does the Delaware County coach and fourth-degree black belt, Alexandre Quintella.
Before we go into the how and why of training with higher-level BJJ training partners, it would be prudent to try and understand how they approach things in general. For one, most upper belts won’t be on a mission to kill you or torture you, unless you present yourself in a way that they seem deserving of such actions. The thing to understand about upper, and especially black belts, is that they roll based on experience rather than a set of techniques. In other words, they don’t go in a roll with expectations of what they will do. They just let things play out and adopt any situation that arises.
Turing the pace on a higher belt will most likely send them into defensive mode, one that you can’t breakthrough. Inevitably, you’ll tire out achieving nothing, and they’ll use an opening to turn the tables and then won’t let you move until they submit you or the round ends. All of that when you could’ve had a roll where you actually achieved something technical or learned a thing or two about tactics.
A key thing to also remember and that has to do with the balance in a roll with a higher belt is respect. It is one thing to show someone respect, and an entirely different thing to be star-struck. If you approach a roll with a senior training partner with the mindset “I’m going to lose this, he’s a brown/black belt” you’ll get nothing out of the roll, simply because you’re too scared to participate. The same things go for your training partner, who’ll get very little from, someone, too scared to engage and enter grappling exchanges.
Bia already has 6 Gi world titles, 1 No-Gi World title, and 1 ADCC title to her name at the age of 29. While she is looking towards MMA (understandably) she still has a lot to offer to the BJJ world, be it in the form of instructionals or matches. Bia also has a bunch of other titles, ranging from the Pans and Europeans, through the Abu Dhabi pro all the way to winning the EBI in 2016.
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Finally, a bunch of crazy combo attacks from open guards that will provide competitors with a goldmine of ideas. Bia really shares some amazing stuff here, starting with the chiropractic triangle choke which has to be the best-named move on this entire instructional. Next up are combinations to use when an opponent is on their knees, ending up with a neat little armlock. Triangles, armbars, and a front armbar follow suit, al focusing on breaking down, and tapping kneeling opponents. In combination with the X and shin-to-shin guards options before, this gives you a complete system to deal with people trying to pass your guard from any level.
First of all, I have to make a distinction in terms of old school moves and “evergreen” moves. By “evergreen” moves I mean stuff like armbars, rear-naked choke, Kimuras, etc, that we keep on seeing with every new generation of grapplers. Old school BJJ is more about stuff that was popular for a while but then fell out of favor for one reason or another. Examples include the grapefruit choke, straight armlocks, the Anaconda choke, rubber guard, tornado guard, etc. All of these were highly popular in the early days of BJJ in Brazil or the USA, but then, got lost as modern BJJ (whatever that may be) started to develop.
When it comes to positional play, the closed guard is making a comeback, and for a good reason – it plugs a hole left by too much nonsense that comes in the form of open guards that are based on lapels and Berimbolos. Looking into some old school pointers like controlling with your knees instead of the feet, and looking to always have grips on both wrists are great ways of surprising people with something simple, but extremely effective.
The penultimate portion of the Guard Retention Anthology Lachlan Giles instructional DVD has to do with establishing control over an opponent before guard retention even begins. There are different modalities of establishing control, and Lachlan goes over everything very methodically. From feet on biceps, through a comprehensive section on understanding grips, all the way to key concepts that include when to sit, and when to lie, and prevent key grips for your opponents.
BJJ overtraining doesn’t always have to do with how many times a week your train. You could train every day of the week and never experience overtraining or fatigue symptoms. It also doesn’t have to do with hitting a plateau, at least not always. Mostly it is about intensity, and the type of BJJ classes you’re taking that will define whether you’re overtraining, and more importantly, how far “gone” you are. Jiu-Jitsu is difficult even if it the only thing you’re doing in a day, let alone if you’re juggling every other aspect of life.
Something that clearly going to change when you do too much Jiu-Jitsu will be your mood. Getting cranky, annoyed at teammates, letting your ego emerge during rolls, getting angry about moves not working, failing at escapes because you’re not thinking about what you’re doing, etc. are all things that indicate you need a break. While we might have a bad day on the mat from time to time, the goal is to have fun and feel great about it while we’re training. Having mood swings, and or anything of the symptoms above just means you need to consider overtraining as the cause.